Every once in a while I run into someone that loves drama. Have you ever considered where they get all that stuff to complain about? Can there really be that much in their lives out of sorts all the time?
I’ve made a few observations that may help you get a different perspective on those folks.
I’ve been the victim of the drama crowd on several occasions. I say victim because the folks I ran into would flat out lie, accuse, twist, or some how distort the truth to fit their needs.
The first time I dealt with it, I thought it was me. I really believed it was my fault to a large degree. What had I done to deserve such treatment? How could I do differently to get a better result? What did I need to do to make it stop? No matter what I did, I never found the solution. The solution came when he got saved.
The next time I had it happen, I really could not figure out what the person had against me. I have not ever seen such tortured truth accompanied by accusations of my incompetence. I spent a lot of time in that loop too. In the end, I decided he just wanted to keep my mind so caught up in that web that I could not see what he was doing.
Notice that in neither case was it about me. That is the key. If you are going to successfully deal with the persecution that comes from these folks, you must understand that is not about you. Sometimes the only way to end it is to walk away.
Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
The phrase that usually sticks in my mind is that we are to live peaceably with all men. When I looked up this passage, the phrase “but condescend to men of low estate” jumped out at me. Strong’s Numbers indicates condescend comes from a word that can mean companionship or union. “Men of low estate” means the humble. If we put that together we’d have union or companionship to the humble. Adam Clarke’s Commentary on the Bible says the phrase means, “be a companion of the humble, and to pass through life with as little noise and show as possible.”
Today’s challenge is to pray about your relationships. Are you caught in a web of drama? If you are, remember that you cannot change the folks that are telling lies about you. Chances are that there is nothing that you have done to cause them to do this to you. You just happen to be the target they picked. Only God can change a heart. Pray for the person that is falsely accusing you. Then, consider looking for your next friend among the humble.